What Coaches and Mentors Can Learn from Own Your Greatness
Guiding someone else's growth means being treated as the person with answers, even in sessions where you are genuinely unsure what will help. It is easy to treat that uncertainty as proof you have no business advising anyone. Own Your Greatness offers a steadier read on the feeling: it is a familiar pattern with a shape, common among people whose job is to hold space for someone else's uncertainty, not a verdict on your ability to guide.
The whole book, compressed
This edition works through 4 core lessons — take them one at a time, not all at once.
What's different for your conditions
Tap whichever ones sound like you. Nothing here is sent or saved — it's just for your own noticing.
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The core lessons, applied to you
Naming the exact moment doubt shows up
A coach's or mentor's doubt tends to spike at specific points, right after a session that felt flat, when a client questions your approach, or before a first meeting with someone new.
Treating the doubt as a permanent verdict on your fitness for the work, rather than tracing it to the session that triggered it, makes the pattern harder to interrupt.
After a spike, name the exact trigger, the flat session, the pointed question, the new client, rather than letting it collapse into a broad doubt about the whole practice.
Questioning the story before the next session
Once triggered, a familiar story often follows fast, something like a real expert would already have the answer, and it can shape how you show up in the very next session.
Walking into the next meeting still carrying last week's story means the same hesitation shows up regardless of your actual track record with clients.
Check the story against the evidence, the actual progress clients have made, then take one small step, asking the follow-up question, naming what you do not yet know, instead of performing certainty you do not feel.
Practicing until steadiness feels earned
Handling one hard session well does not mean the next one feels easy, since a single success does not retrain the underlying pattern by itself.
Treating one breakthrough session as proof the doubt is resolved skips the repetition that actually builds a steadier response across clients.
After each session, briefly note which step helped, naming the trigger, questioning the story, or acting despite it, so the pattern strengthens with each client relationship.
When the field is part of the story
A coach or mentor who is newer to a crowded field, or who is the only one from their background offering this kind of guidance, may be noticing something real about how the field treats newcomers, not manufacturing doubt from nothing. Own Your Greatness is careful here: some impostor feelings reflect an uneven professional landscape, not solely a personal shortfall to fix alone. Holding both the framework and a fair look at the field keeps the practice honest rather than becoming private self-blame.
A sudden trigger, a client's pointed question mid-session, can land in the same week as a slower doubt that has built since your practice started growing more slowly than hoped. When that happens, handle the nearer moment first, using the three-step sequence to get through today's session, then return to the slower pattern once the immediate pressure eases. Trying to resolve months of doubt about your whole practice in the middle of one session usually leaves neither concern well handled.
Name one thing, honestly
- Which specific moment, a flat session, a pointed question, a new client, most reliably triggers your doubt? - What story do you tell yourself after a session that did not go well, and does it match your actual track record? - Where might the field itself, not just your own thinking, be shaping how confident you feel offering guidance?
Good. Now look back at the "Try this" line under whichever lesson feels most connected to what you just wrote, and treat that as this week's actual assignment — not all 4 at once.
The practices from this edition
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Run this for seven days
After each session, briefly note which step helped, naming the trigger, questioning the story, or acting despite it, so the pattern strengthens with each client relationship.