Compare Two People | Quadrants: Know Thyself

Most disagreements that keep coming back are not disagreements about the thing being discussed. They are two people running different settings on the same dial and each assuming the other is being difficult on purpose.

This page takes two result codes from the same framework and puts them next to each other. It shows where the two of you agree, where you differ, how big the difference is, and which individual statements you answered furthest apart. That last list is usually the most useful thing on the page, because a specific sentence is much easier to talk about than a general sense that something is off.

How to use it

Both people take the same assessment separately, without discussing it.
Each person copies their result code from the bottom of their results.
Paste both codes below and read the comparison together.

Names are optional and stay in this browser tab. Nothing is saved and nothing is sent anywhere.

First person, name (optional) First person, result code

Second person, name (optional) Second person, result code

Dimension			Difference

What the difference means

The statements you answered furthest apart

Ranked by the size of the gap. A gap of three or four points on a five point scale usually means the two of you are describing genuinely different experiences, not just wording it differently.

Statement			Gap

Three things worth asking each other

Drawn from the statements above. Ask them as questions, not as evidence.

Before you use this

A comparison like this is useful when both people want to understand each other better. It is not useful, and can do real harm, when it is used to settle an argument, to prove a point, or to tell someone what they are like. Neither column is the correct one. The gap is information about the pair, not a score for either person.